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We
have learned that most people over 65 do not want to
move again. In fact studies in Canada and the U.S. say
that 82% do not want to leave their present home. They will. It is just a matter of when
and how, and that depends on ability, desire, and
circumstance.
When they do move
the individual need, not some stereotype of what "seniors need",
will determine the choice.
Those who are fairly active and healthy have the
freedom of staying
right where they are now. Life is good and retirement is 18
holes of golf in the morning and trips to Florida in the
winter. The house still works for them and moving is not
on the horizon and if it is, the move is made to create even
more freedom.
This group also has
the choice to move, if they wish to a retirement community
that offers independent living - ranging from so-called adult
lifestyle communities to condominiums that are favoured by the
same generation. Many want do other things than
maintaining their property. They want to travel, be
closer to the kids, be warmer, or just have a new adventure.
However, to show
how complex and worrisome this can be, one's life situation
can can and change quickly. Circumstances arise for some seniors which
can make it
unwise or even dangerous for an individual or a couple to
remain alone at home without help.
Freedom is not the issue,
managing is. Sometimes
we just have to admit that we cannot manage. Friends and
family are willing to help in an emergency, they cannot always
be expected to help on a permanent basis. Besides, like
most seniors, being a burden to others is unthinkable. There
is no other choice but than to consider living in an assisted
living facility or nursing home.
The key to a successful
transition is seeing the move as a positive experience. Those who recognize that life has stages on which
we live out our lives, the ones who know they are not 'Peter
Pan' and do have to grow up, find peace and joy in each new
experience. If that means a new style of house, so be
it. To admit that change is normal means the likelihood
of a better experience and a less stressful life.
The
aging process is a continuum of independence and need. This means the right kind of housing today may
not be right tomorrow. The important thing is to make sure of your options
and to anticipate the future. Whatever one does, being able to stay comfortably to "age in place" where you live now is ideal. Hopefully
you will find help in this section of JustShelter in finding
the right answers for you at this time of your life. |
